Manscaping Downunder – The Twins

Let’s get to the real nuts of the matter – “The Boys” down there need some loving too.  This post is all about care and nurturing of our chestnuts, what feels good and how to accentuate what you got.  A while ago I did a massage exchange with a buddy, and to my surprise he asked if I wanted a shave – a nut sack shave!  He proceeded to wash my cock and balls with a warm towel and very carefully shaved my sack, taking his time to work up to the shaft and even getting down to the “taint” (as my good friend Scott says referring to the perineum, ‘taint the balls and ‘taint the asshole).  The finishing touch was not only another warm towel bath but his fingers stroking the freshly shaved and very sensitive sack skin.  I nearly came right off the table!!!!

Alan does some good work; in addition to lavishing attention to your low hangers he does full body manscaping, trimming down (and taming) unruly body hair, helping to accentuate a man’s natural physique.  You can call him at 510-436-3330 or drop him an email at alanoakley46@yahoo.com for an appointment.

As for play, I have always enjoyed a light tugging on my balls when receiving head from a guy, especially right at the point when they begin to ascend just before ejaculation.  This signals the end of the plateau phase and the beginning of the orgasm phase, breathing is heavier and the balls actually become engorged and slightly larger, same for the prostate.  I’ve had many guys slap my balls (No) or really pull hard (Ugh-ugh) or even twist them (WTF??).  This isn’t your new chew toy, buddy.  Be gentle here – we want to add just a little sensation to the already flooding cascade of sensations we are feeling in our whole body, not be overwhelmed by it.  UNLESS you’re a Ballplayer, the name for men that really enjoy heavy, and I mean heavy ball play, including nuts in vices (very cool clear lucite vices so you can see everything – yes, I’ve done this), tying them up with all manner of ropes and bungees (this, too), and even suspending the lower body by your nuts.   Check out Shotgun Videos for more info on Ballplayers.

Back in my bodybuilding days I would even tie iron weights to the ball sack using a ball stretcher with a D-ring attached, a thick leather cock ring of sorts for your balls.  It feels awesome wearing one, weights or not.  You can find one at Mr. S Leather or at The Stockroom.  Check it out and have some fun with your cajones – you’ll be glad you did.  

Attention! I salute you!!!

I wonder if any of you have seen the newest trend in lubrication out there?  Not just a new slicker type of johnson jelly, this is one product that actually works AND you can make it at home with the lube you already have.  A short while ago, sex researchers discovered that adding a product (an amino acid that our bodies produce) to the lube that already has natural nitric oxide producing effects (what Viagra does) can have mind-blowing hard-ons.  Yes, applied topically.  Trippy.  The ingredient is called L’arginine

I tried it this past weekend, Thursday evening, all day and night on Friday, and once more just to be absolutely sure on Saturday morning.  Any body-builder will have the stuff lying around the house – I found mine at Rainbow grocery in SF.  I emptied 6 750 mg. caps into a small jar of Elbow Grease and Wowee!  Check out Amazon (yes, Amazon for all your butt butter needs).

What was so unusual for this product is how the lube made my cock not only harder but more sensitive.  Some are even combining the vitamin (yes, it is classified as a vitamin) with menthol in the tip of condoms.  I’m loving where this is all going.  I also tried the lube tossing one off, just to make positively sure I could endorse this product, of course.  It’s my duty, nay, my obligation to all men out there that want better, longer play sessions with their men.  I’m happy to report that the product performed admirably, erectionally-speaking, even under long, sweaty hours of grueling play.  Dang, it’s been rough……

Go Piggie!!!

Suck, Don’t Blow……….

I’ve always been fascinated by jobs, especially the jobs we call “blow.”  We are not really blowing anything.  It’s all about opening wide – and it can be quite a job, particularly when faced with a huge monster rearing its head.  I always try to do my best, though.  That is precisely whey they call it practice.  I know some who should get a lifetime achievement award……..from this relentless soul I picked up the latest entry into the Tips Tricks and Techniques from the Edge.

The fascination, for me, is equally as exciting whether I am  standing with my hands planted on  a man’s ears, shoving my tool down their throat, or on my knees with both hands behind my back using my inner throat muscles to massage my man’s cock.  It’s an oral thing, to be filled up, satiated, complete – and don’t forget the sublime rapture (as Charles Nelson calls it in both his books Panthers in the Skins of Men and The Boy Who Picked the Bullets Up) of a big ol explosive load in your mouth or the sweet musky juices dripping down your throat.  Ahhhh.

So, here is an excellent way to turn your man into a mewling puppy.  I learned this technique back in the 70′s from a master cock sucker, a guy that really relished his avocation and it can be done with things you already have around the house.  This trick works best if your man is standing, but can be done in any position, as you want his nut sack to hang down low.  Warming them beforehand by blowing on them might be a good way to begin.  First, use some Vaseline or heavy ointment style lip goo and coat your lips with a thick layer – this makes the sliding back and forth smooth and effortless.  Next, take some corn starch in your left hand (if you’re right handed) and slowly begin lightly massaging the balls of your man.  I mean very lightly!  The combined sensations will drive your man into a frenzy.  Who knows you might even get the job.

Open Wide Baby!

So, more Tips Tricks and Techniques from the Edge.  This is one of my most favorite tricks to stimulate my partners, and especially when used with the “tasting” technique of a few posts back, can make your man wild.  Really the trick to being the “best” at head is in variation, and of course an open throat (more on that later….).  Try this technique: Go down on your favorite man tool all the way so that your lips are brushing up against his bush (while carefully wrapping your lips around your exposed teeth to protect the tender skin there), then open your mouth all the way so that your lips, tongue and the roof of your mouth are barely touching his piece and begin slow deep breathing.  The sensation of cool air and your hot mouth will likely drive your slab o man meat crazy with passion.

Hold me back please…….

Diving deeper into More Tips Tricks and Techniques from the Edge……….here’s one we did in class in January.  In ruminating about the subtle seduction of Glory Holes, I got to thinking about what it is that most surely brings about a Big O.  Someone, maybe even a few someones, are pleasuring us on the other side of the glory hole and we cannot control anything about the contact, besides (gasp!!!) pulling out.

Our body faces a hard wall, both solid and immovable, while our junk is getting softly caressed and stroked to an explosive end.  There is something seductive about being not in control, especially our own pleasure.  Secretly, I’ve always fantasized about having a hole in the massage table I use, about midway down so that when you are lying face down your goodies are hanging all loose and free below for anyone to explore while you are getting a deep tissue bodywork session.  Sigh!

Okay, so here’s the good part:  Have your favorite man whore kneel on the bed facing away from you while you position yourself kneeling behind him, perhaps even between his legs, with one arm (your non-dominant arm) reaching around holding him firmly to your chest.  Next, take your dominant hand and, reaching around to the front of your man, stroke off your partner.  His job is to be passive, to be taken, pleasured, abused.  And, depending on his size, you can even use the other hand to stroke his head, nips, or neck, while the other has a firm grip on his tool.

While this can and does also work if your cock is inside him, it is much more effective if you are providing total holding (what we call containment).  Your buddy’s load will be rich and explosive, all the more so if he can really let go.  An optional trick might be to pop in a butt plug into your buddy beforehand, using your hips to hold it securely in place while you stroke him from behind.   Hint: “Straight guys” love this because they can always say that it was done to them, it wasn’t their fault because they weren’t in control.  Whatever!

A Little Resistance is Good for the Hole

Under the heading of more Tips, Tricks and Techniques from the Edge (you just KNOW you want more….) here ‘s one secret technique I found that is guaranteed to get your man off big time.  The next time your Paddle Daddy is plowing yer ass big time in the Miss Posish (the ol Missionary Position for all you traditionalists) put your arms over head and have your man hold your wrists down.  Now you may be thinking, “Dude I’ve been all over that action before – what gives?”  Here’s where it gets all interesting and shit.  Think about it energetically – give your man a little resistance as he is holding your wrists down.  Not too much as you want  most of his energy to go into the thrusting, not into holding you down.  What you are creating is a little frustration in the system.  You want just enough to make him want to try harder (not give up exhausted).  It is what we call a distraction technique, a diversion from the hot fucking feelings his dick is undoubtedly feeling – and he’s gong to want to try a little harder to get that yummy-squishy-I’m-going-to-blow-a-big-ol-load-in-your-ass dick feelings.  And the timing is very important – I would try this nearer to the end of the play as you are approaching the finish line.  That coupled with a  few well placed pelvic rotations and you’ll have your man begging for more.

Who ever said a little resistance wasn’t a good thing?

Rock on!

Let go of my ears – I know what I’m doing????

One SE student proudly wears a T shirt to class with the title of this post on it sometimes, and yes, admittedly, as a peter puffer he is good at what he does (really good, damn!), but it had me thinking about how men give head. I’ve found that, more often than not, men practice (and I mean practice literally here) zipper sex in the way that they fuck – by rote, as in something they are used to.
I can be very verbal in play sessions, and really enjoy both speaking and hearing it in a session. I don’t mean the “oh, Daddy” kind but more the “yes, this is how I like it” and “more of that right there,” or even “try this.” My comments are sexualized instructions on how to suck my cock plain and simple. I feel this sets me apart as a good sexual communicator in bed. Yes, yes, yes, you might be saying, all that is well and good, but here’s kicker.
A lot of men merely listen for a moment and then go right back to what they usually do when giving a piston job – they go into their rote patterns of sucking cock. Guys – cock-sucking is an art form and if a man is willing to tell you how to please him, fuck. Just do it. I mean really listen, not just to the words, but even to how they are responding to what you are doing – the moans will give you a clue as to what to do more of and what to stop doing. For me, silence is not good (silence=bad) – this is probably the time when they are going into their heads and fantasizing/dissociating from the present moment. Being verbal really helps you and your partner stay present.
Every man is built differently and is sensitive in different parts of their cock. Personally I like to get hard in my partner’s mouth, slowly, so I prefer a “tasting” method.
DETAILED INSTRUCTIONS HERE SO PAY ATTENTION guys: Deep throat your partner and stay there without any movement, allowing your man to feel your breath on his pubes. this might even be the time to hum a few bars of your favorite aria or pop tune. Seriously. You can even get your buddy to join in on the refrain.
After the 4th or 5th verse, next try swallowing slowly while keeping your tongue extended toward the base. What this does is tighten your throat muscles around his meat and pull it down. After all, this is the action of the throat muscles, to pull food down your gullet. My oh my, this feels very good. In addition, the oxytocin in his pre-cum will make your throat feel good also, further encouraging it to contract.
So there ya go, all you blow monkeys out there.
And for you ‘heady guys” here is some more reading, an excerpt by Erobinteca:

I undid your belt buckle, popped the buttons of your faded jeans one at a time. Pulled them down to your ankles. Saw your large cock spring free in the dim light. You hopped onto the drafting table, sat with legs dangling, your fingers in my short hair.

You instructed me. With gentle words taught me how to use my tongue on your glans, my lips on your shaft. With you I learned pressure, suction, tempo. How to use my teeth, lightly, teasingly.
You whispered a request to me – suck your balls. Fleshy plums, I drew them into the cave of my mouth, played my tongue over them. With this you moaned for me, leaked a drop of fluid. Once again, my lips met the head of your cock, tasted the sweet, sour, salty promise of a lesson well-learned….

What this all cums down to guys is bringing mindfulness to your cock-sucking, a heightened level of awareness to all you jaw queens and throat monsters out there.
Never stop practicing!!