Rhythms

Keeping Time

I’m struck by the nature of rhythms and how they play out in our lives. From the day/night cycles of our circadian rhythms, as is pictured here, to the drip, drip drip of the bathroom faucet that you have been meaning to get to for months but cannot find the time. It is said that nature abhors a vacuum, meaning that everything changes, evolves and devolves, including energy. My spiritual teacher would always repeat to me that energy, by its very nature, changes into something else, has to. Things die to make way for other things, how each year, like right about now, the leaves are falling from the trees around us and slowly, gradually decaying, offering up its nutrients and nitrogen, a by product of the decay, for other life to grow and flourish.

Most of these rhythms are just below our level of consciousness – if we just open up ourselves to the tempo of life, you may see that we are constantly expanding and contracting, moving in and out of relationship with ourselves and others. AND, specifically in our erotic lives. For example, the sexual energy in the last class was palpable. The men were open and frisky, the energy light and playful. Yes, it had been over a month since the last class and folks were adjusting to the new rhythms of Fall setting in. I even participated in the face sucking before class during the movement segment, something I’ve never done in the 5 years I’ve been teaching this class.

If you notice, even in our jacking off and fucking we have rhythms, both in the act and the frequency, day to day and month to month. So if you ever feel down about low erotic energy, try and let that energy go around judging where you are at and how you are moving through the world. Everything is as it should be – you’ll be back to 6 times a day once more.

The Holder part Deux

If you’ve ever watched how a baby breathes, it is effortless. The energy in the pelvis informs the rest of the body and the movement is spontaneous, undulating on an organismic level. Reich’s theory of his Pulsation Model describes just this after observing all matter of beings from a single celled organism to animals to man. All creatures/systems undulate from the micro to the macro level. Each morning we brush and wash and shower and clean up ourselves, we fuck and eat and shit all in rhythms. We move in and out of contact, even out emotions fluctuate a thousand times per day. Reich looked at our life force exploding outward from us in our orgasm – as I write this I’m reminded of the Big Bang theory, the beginning of the universe as we know it. I’d like to think that our orgasm is a micro level Big Bang, a part of the Pulsation Model in harmony with the universe.

I’m not saying that one position is better than the rest – IT IS THE CHOICE THAT IS IMPORTANT!!! When we become locked in our pelvis, dropped down posteriorly like a dog hiding it’s tail between its legs, we are in the discharge position and are unable to hold an energetic charge in our bodies – consequently we lose our choice in the world as to how we move in it. A man cannot hold these sexual feelings when his pelvis is in this position so he either has to act on them or squelch them, cutting him off from his very essence, his aliveness.

Ah, and our bodies, that wonderfully ingenious collection of breath and bone accommodates because that is what it does most efficiently, it allows. It builds musculature to support our rigid posture (not good).

Conversely, if our belly is soft and our pelvis tucked into a forward rotation, we can hold our charge. Our sexual feelings (not genital stimulation) are held here in the belly along with our feelings of sadness and power in the world. Scary, huh? Nah, it’s all good.