Anal Health

Dang, I’m backed up…..

Admittedly I’ve been a little behind on my postings to this blog as things get more complex in my private practice and I’m also noting my judgments around this, trying to stay present with them, perhaps even come to some form of acceptance of it all.  This picture had me thinking about behinds and anal health in general.  We rarely ever talk about it with friends AND it is usually one of the first things that come up when playing with a man.

I have used, or hear from my partners, comments like, “I hope I am clean down there,” or “am I okay?” or “I haven’t had time to clean out” or even “are you clean to the 2nd sphincter?” in between moans and gasps and licks.   I must admit that this last one I’d never heard – okay, yes, he was hung quite well and I suppose had every reason to ask THAT question.

Comments like these are polite, even gentlemanly, and are a part of the messiness of man to man contact.  Anal sex, in fact, is very much like life: it is supposed to be messy – that way we are forced to slow down some, to NOT take it (or the hot man you are with) for granted.

In Anatomy 101, I learned that we are one big old tube from the mouth to the anus with a lot of sinew and viscera surrounding it all.  I know, not very romantic, eh?  Our alimentary tract (the tube) has its own rhythm, a pulse and a flow to it.  This is why we usually have a “time” when we defecate, usually around 5-7am, however when we are stressed this rhythm gets out of whack.  It is times like these when a little help really HELPS.  Any drugstore will sell douche bulbs, usually around $10 or so.  This is meant for a light quick rinse and works very well.   In my humble opinion, it demonstrates manners to clean out before heavy sexual activity.  In addition, douche hoses you can fit on your faucet or attach to your shower head are inexpensive (from $20 to about $65) and can be found online or at any sex shop in the Castro.  These can take a little more skill than the bulb as you are dealing with water pressure here.  Remember, we are never doing a deep cleaning – that could take hours………….your man is waiting.

Hopefully after a few tries you will gain some skill in pulling this off, and a general comfort level with your anus, this typically disowned part of ourselves. Hey, it can’t be all bad – after all  it is a part of you.  So  maybe getting backed up isn’t so bad after all.  Maybe it is exactly where you need to be – minus the judgments.

UPDATE: You can find an excellent douche hose here and a bulb on this site (yeah, I know, Amazon??)